I grew up in the Midwest. It was a common occurrence to have friends and neighbors “drop in”. These were not planned gatherings, but rather impromptu visits. Much like a text to check in with a friend! However, “drop-ins” fostered communication, connection, and deep relationships.
My mom would throw on a pot of Folgers, and set out freshly baked pies, cookies, or muffins. Often, if people happened to be driving or walking by and saw someone else’s car in the driveway, they would stop by and visit as well.
While there were no hard and fast rules about dropping in, there were some general courtesies:
1. Avoid mealtimes. The majority of visits happened in mid-morning or mid-afternoon, thus avoiding the preparation for or cleanup from meals.
2. Offer to help with the task at hand. Work did not stop just because visitors stopped by. Ironing, hanging laundry on the line, or garden work continued on pace, and friends offered to lighten the load and help out.
3. Always decline the second cup of coffee, even when you know full well that you will have at least one more.
My parents would always bring a gift when they visited friends. Sometimes it was a loaf of bread, an assortment of fresh produce, flowers from the garden, or even preserved jam or pickles. Even though a gift was not expected or required, they never showed up empty-handed.
The only agenda was fellowship. Nurturing relationships, and offering a helping hand were a priority.
These “drop-ins” are still a common occurrence in the small town where I grew up. It is part of the culture there, even with the advent of cell phones and Facebook.
I wonder how a simple “drop-in” visit could inspire positive change in our community. This could help create more connectedness and sense of belonging. A small act of kindness that could change someone’s life perhaps.
For your next drop-in, I am including a recipe for an outstanding hummus that is quick to prepare! These ingredients are staple pantry items. I prefer T&C’s fresh ground tahini located with the fresh nut butters between the bulk items and spices.
Cheers to the generosity of the heart.
1 can garbanzo beans, drained, iquid reserved
1 teaspoon of salt
½ teaspoon of pepper
1 teaspoon of cumin
¼ - ½ teaspoon of cayenne pepper
2 - 3 garlic cloves
1/3 cup of tahini
Juice of 2 lemons
¼ cup of Italian parsley
Place all ingredients into a food processor and pulse until smooth. Add reserved bean liquid a little at a time to achieve desired consistency. Adjust seasoning as needed. Serve with assorted crudité, pita chips, or naan bread.