There is no way to adequately stress the importance of self-care. In a world where you are constantly pouring every ounce of yourself into the people around you, it is IMPERATIVE that you maintain your sanity. I can only imagine the facial expressions of people who know me as they read this. I am extremely notorious for pushing all human boundaries for the sake of caring for my people. Days without sleep? No problem. Working sixteen plus hours without eating? Regular for me. Let me just get it out of the way now and tell you that living this way WILL take its toll in many ways. Often times, in ways you don’t even realize until it’s too late.
The “come-down” from pushing your body to such extremes is something that I struggle to put into words. Fatigue, physical illness, and even emotional darkness all find their way into the stockpot of your soul. Slowly, it boils until eventually, it bubbles over. All of a sudden, your home life is a little bit more hectic than usual. Work seems to be more burdensome. Then, just like that, you are in a downward spiral of depression and anxiety.
Lucky for me, someone came across my path and changed my definition of self-care entirely. Her name is Nita Baer. Therapist, mother, and dear friend, she is one of the most compassionate and humble human beings I have ever encountered. A journey through her background will reveal to you a truly battle-tested individual. She has opened my eyes to parts of my existence I had never experienced before. The wisdom and knowledge she holds are enough to fill a handful of city libraries. In the years that I have known her, she has taken me to new heights in many facets of my life such as leadership, communication, parenting, and coaching. This list could go on for days. I need you all to know this: If you do not have a solid, supporting cast in your corner, then it is going to be very difficult to achieve peak performance. Find the things or people that genuinely and consistently fill you up when your tank is getting low. Your mental health will be greatly appreciative.
Nita Baer is a mental health counselor certified in Lifespan Integration. If you would like to add Nita to your circle of care don't hesitate to reach out at firstname.lastname@example.org.